I’ve come to a point in my parenting where the sheer 3-ness grates on my nerves. The whining. The refusing to share. The tantrums. And we all know that tantrums love an audience.
I’ve discovered a new tactic and I LOVE it! It only works at home, unfortunately. I haven’t found a trick yet to use when we’re out. But here it is… When she starts whining, or refuses to share, or is reveling in her 3-ness, I send her to room. I don’t take her there, or call it time out or the naughty seat. I just tell her to go to her room – until she’s ready to share / stop whining / etc. It’s amazing. She sulks off to her room, disappears behind a closed door for a minute or two, then comes out smiling and announces, “Okay, I’m ready!”
(I seem to remember my mother doing something like this to me… Only it was phrased differently – “don’t come out until…” I prefer the positive-ness of “please come join us as soon as you’re ready to…”)