Success at last!

I’ve come to a point in my parenting where the sheer 3-ness grates on my nerves. The whining. The refusing to share. The tantrums. And we all know that tantrums love an audience.

I’ve discovered a new tactic and I LOVE it! It only works at home, unfortunately. I haven’t found a trick yet to use when we’re out. But here it is… When she starts whining, or refuses to share, or is reveling in her 3-ness,  I send her to room. I don’t take her there, or call it time out or the naughty seat. I just tell her to go to her room – until she’s ready to share / stop whining / etc. It’s amazing. She sulks off to her room, disappears behind a closed door for a minute or two, then comes out smiling and announces, “Okay, I’m ready!”

(I seem to remember my mother doing something like this to me… Only it was phrased differently – “don’t come out until…” I prefer the positive-ness of “please come join us as soon as you’re ready to…”)

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One thought on “Success at last!

  1. I, too like the possitive phrasing.

    This used to be my standard MO, but I’ve actually found it to be in/counter-effective with dd#2.

    She will actually wail (what seems to me) unhealthy lengths of time when left alone. Her wailing seems largely… reactionary rather than (primarily) attention seeking.

    e.g., yesterday she acted over-tired (all. day.) and would *wail* at every infraction from her older sister (these, generally, were not imagined). She would also wail at every surprise/thwarted expectation.

    Typically she has always been the type of child who needs help ramping down, so any of these situations I would leave (or send) her to cry it out do not end in 30-45 minutes alone on her bed.

    If I keep her on a “local” time-out (in the room with us) it drives me nuts, but usually subsides to wounded sniffling in 10(?) minutes or so.

    Basically there’s a better chance it stays “focused” on the actual trigger and therefore is more likely to wear off.

    I absolutely *hate* this method, but I don’t have anything that works better. (Do you?)

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